For solo parents, managing TES must be one of the most important skills we must learn. Having to double duty as mom and dad, we should handle TES properly. No, TES is not your headache-inducing househelp nor the babysitter you need to track on your CCTV. TES is Time, Expectations and Stress. Writing a blog on this topic was not what I had planned. I have 2 others that have been gathering molds from sitting unwritten for weeks. But something happened recently that gave me this insight I feel would help many solo parents. To me, the incident was a . . . . . .
A tweet alerted me to the issue. Something like, “How can he say that when his daughter is a single mom?” Upon searching, I found out it was Sen. Tito Sotto’s insensitive remark to DSWD Secretary Judy Taguiwalo about her being a single mom. Turning the Secretary’s status into a joke was not only ungentlemanly and unstatesman-like, it was downright inhumane. But what grated the most was the note on the side – *room laughs*. He was not alone. There were other people in the hallowed halls of the Senate who think the situation that led to someone being a . . . . . .
“The next day an evilspirit from God came forcefully on Saul…Saul had a spear in his hand and he hurled it, saying to himself, “I’ll pin David to the wall.” But David eluded him twice.” – 1 Samuel:10-11 Solo Sister No. 1 is a petite woman with gentle eyes matched with a shy demeanor. What might catch your attention about her is that she has a few teeth missing. When I heard her story from other solo sisters, I was appalled. Her husband had hit her and misaligned her jaw to the extent dentures could not be fitted into her mouth. That wasn’t all. She . . . . . .
“Imitate me, then, just as I imitate Christ.” – 1 Corinthians 11:1 I don’t just love to dance; my toes instantly tap when I hear dance music and my shoulders and hips shimmy with the opening bars. Dancing seems to be one of my gifts since I’m one of the first few people friends think of when they need dancers for an event. But the irony of it all is that the most embarrassing moment of my youth involved dancing. It was when I made a complete clown of myself in a dance presentation for our college Glee Club concert . . . . . .
“Following Jesus is not just about going to heaven. It’s about bringing heaven to earth especially to those who are going through hell.” – Bo Sanchez Post-natal and pregnant. That was the condition I was in exactly 30 years ago. That was the same condition I was in during the recently concluded 2016 Kerygma Conference (KCon). Not in the physical sense of course, or else I’d be a candidate for the Guinness Book of World Records for Alien Pregnancies. I’m a maturing-gracefully widow after all. In November 1986, I sat at my OB-GYN’s office feeling a bit embarrassed. I had . . . . . .
“Each of us should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms.” – 1Peter 4:10 Goliath of a Dream To be a published author. That was my giant dream, one that seemed too big for me to conquer. Not only did it seem insurmountable, it was taking years to fulfill. If my prayer about my career were a child I had given birth to, that offspring would already have celebrated its debut. That’s how long my prayer remained unanswered. I had already gone through the discernment process that writing was . . . . . .
Today is Mother’s Day and I’m sitting in a coffee shop eating breakfast while waiting to join my son in Feast ATC, sitting and reflecting on what this day means. Before I go on, I’d like to greet all moms out there on this special day but sweeter greetings with cherry on top go out to solo moms like me. Let’s give ourselves a pat on the back. We survived another year of pulling double duty not just as Mom but also as Dad. Why a pat on the back? All moms go through the same grind. Well, solo moms . . . . . .
What would I do if I knew that I could not fail? If I believed, would the wind always fill up my sail? How far would I go, what could I achieve? Trusting the hero in me… What if we’re all meant to do what we secretly dream? What would you ask if you knew you could have anything? Never lose faith, even when losing my way. What step would I take today if I were brave? These lines from Jana Stanfield’s song If I Were Brave pierced through the doubts and fears I had about my career. They unearthed . . . . . .
“The grace of God can only enter through the cracks of a broken heart.” The last talk series, TGIF (Thank God I’m Filipino) gave many thought-provoking and touching lessons and quips like the one above that inspired me to write a couple of reflections. Last week, I was sad I wasn’t able to write another because of pressing deadlines. There were still a lot of notes I had that I wanted to expound on. But God and Lola Nidora both said: “Ang lahat ng bagay ay nasa tamang panahon.” (“There is a time for everything” – Ecclesiastes 3:1) As it . . . . . .
“For now the Lord has abandoned us…The Lord turned to him and said: Go with the strength you have, and save Israel from the power of Midian. Is it not I who send you?” – Judges 6:13-14 “Are you facing failures? Do you feel that God has abandoned you? “Your failures are the fertilizers for the great harvest God is preparing for you. “Sometimes, God’s purpose is revealed after the problem.” These lines grabbed my attention at the start of Halo-Halo Espesyal, Talk 2 of the current Feast series TGIF (Thank God, I’m Filipino). Why? Because of what happened to me this . . . . . .